LOVE and why women fall prey to this scam?

Loves reality has two faces, that of in love and all out of love. Women we speak to through this forum have experienced both and are plagued with feelings of optimism, hope, pessimism, heartbreak and anger. Over the years seeing friends go from one relationship to another, after unanimous conversations on Love and the scam that we repeatedly find it to be, one thing remains clear, the primary reason that causes women to fall prey to “LOVE” is Loneliness and Boredom.

Loneliness

So you moved out of your folks homes years ago, shared an apartment with a friend or lover husband, probably still do, live on your own or with your kids but a void remains. A space that only a partner can fullfil.

You spend your days reminiscing on past love affairs, regardless how septic they were, you have no recollection of bad circumstances surrounding that break up. Church groups and club hopping only hold water for a few days and even the best friend and children don’t identify with that emotional and physical need that no longer can be supressed. Days later you find yourself in the wrong place at the right time and somehow someone manages to say exactly what you remember from a movie the previous night, “ Sorry you dropped this…” haha! And well yeah, you did, (deliberately or not), a conversation struck, cards and Facebook IDs exchanged and communication begins quickly.

A few lines and lots of flattery later, unknowingly, you barely have enough hours in a day between, work, chatting, personal care, family and this new interest who just happens to be spending every waking second with you virtually and physically. You tend to not really notice their shortcomings and deceptions for fear of facing a harsh reality and during this time these men are really throwing it in there. Telling you all sorts of hard core facts about themselves while you are floating somewhere along cloud number nine. Like how they have never read a book in their life, they despise cleaning, they hate kids, love bars and parties that never end, they are not into marriage or Christianity  and even conversations about their pot bellies seem funny at the time. In extreme circumstances you actually believe the bit that they are in bad relationships with a witch of a woman who is pregnant with their child. They really load it on thick and heavy and make it sound so trivial that we really believe these innocent creatures all because we do not want to be alone. So we decide that its cool we will revisit that issue later and continue with this seemingly honest new found friend. 

It doesn’t take long before you’re thrown into reality that this relationship was a mistake but its already too late to get out, so you salvage what you can and just tolerate this person and their stories and life wondering how you missed such obvious tell tale signs of lies and deceit. Now you know that if he was capable of deceiving another perfectly innocent person, he would be capable of deceiving you.  Loneliness sucked you into an emotionally dependant state that you were unable to make clear decisions regarding your long term wellbeing. Loneliness makes one exceedingly tolerant to alarmingly psychotic levels whereby we make The Great Mahatma and Mother Teresa look shameful!  

          

Sex   

Regardless of age, experience, race or religion, every woman fantasizes about some amazing sexual encounter. It is always playing in the background like some repetitive movie that doesn’t disappear but just evolves over experience. This section is aimed at women who actually know a thing or two about sex and themselves. 

You are really not a lonely person, you have your life plan in order, probably not going exactly as planned but it remains unchanged and you are on emotionally on track. The only place you have for a man in your life is this role of sex because you have already figured out their uses and know that undoubtedly this is the one thing that even if they suck at it (no pun intended) they will still try what pleases you, against all odds for the sake of their overwhelming ego. Hahaha!!

So you meet this guy, wherever it may be, he “seems” normal according to your superficial standards, or you really could care less what his surname is, have a few introductory conversations and coffees. You have a look at your checklist;

1.       Does he look attractive?

2.       Can he hold a conversation with you for more than 30mins with occasional but regular glances at your bosom?

3.       Does he have personality even if it is fake?

4.       Can he make you laugh in the most unassuming way with extreme wit and ease?

So you answered YES to your checklist and he scores 100%! Now for the deal breaker, How would his performance be in the bedroom? Only one way to find out, clearly it is still game on if he put up with all your attitude thus far. It could go two ways, mind blowing amazing sex from the outset or average and below, sex which is just UNACCEPTABLE!

Deal breaker done and with a below average performance, to say the least for fear that he may be reading this article, haha, you were placed in a position to act like it rocked your world when all he did was actually rock nothing not even the couch. The maltese from across the road had more on this guy. Maybe he was nervous, hahahaha! Well a few tries later, with his aim just about as far as those rugby posts, he was just not getting it. So much of effort from his side with such poor outcomes on your side! He needed some advice and he could either be offended or practice to please. Problems identified with a few glitches and immediate improvements, with you two well on your way to great sex.

Once SEX gets arranged properly from the outset, there will be no wondering eyes between the two of you as everything you need is well within this perfect arrangement. From here things could get emotional very quickly and love definitely on the cards, all based on the very critical premise: “women who actually know a thing or two about sex and themselves.”

If you are not one of these women, I suggest you abstain from sex for fear that you can easily become emotionally captive by a sexual retard and continue to read about great sex in magazines. If you choose to go ahead, let it be entirely for the sake of experience and not LOVE!   

Advancement of your species! LOL!

PROCREATION ofcourse! What other reason to involve yourself in the LOVE debacle! Hahaha! Kidding ladies!

Seriously though, all women reach a point when that mom instinct kicks in, even though itcomes in spasms….note not orgasms! And it’s relatively short lived. You reach a point where clubbing, bars, online chats, best friends settling down, growing older, etc etc etc all kick in and you realise, Im done with this krap, I want a cute tiny little baby too and as society dictates, you need  a man or a husband to get this job done! 

So what choice do we have really but to search for the strongest gene out there, in search of the fastest swimmer, minimum defects, easy on the eye, great stamina, stable mind, hahahaha!, with a tight ass. I mean how difficult can this really be? Well easy enough you find him, somewhat with a few of these qualities, hahaha or maybe with none of it. Okay so he’s not all that but he may make a good dad and you go ahead with the LOVE scam all in the name of Procreation! 

   

So ladies, I’m telling you something you already know, there is no such thing as love! know there is no such thing as the perfect relation because there is no such thing as the perfect man! So stop watching those romantic comedy movies….And stay far far away from any Bollywood flick!!  Quit being so gullible.  

I recommend you find a person that is mature, who shares your ideals on life and have an arrangement to always be there as a witness to each others lives. Get married if you want but get your attorneys to draw up an agreement that secures this lifetime partnership.

Marriage is the only unilateral agreement that can be cancelled by either party without reason. There are mortgages and loans out there more secure than the contract of marriage! Something to think about Hey!…..This is your life we are talking about. Men think more about their financial obligations than their verbal contracts, so put it in terms they understand and see how many more men actually take the walk down to the altar!               

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