Wtf was I thinking . . .

This is a statement I hear repeatedly by friends, both male and female alike, usually after something good turned terribly wrong and eventually ended. They arise from the ashes almost like the Phoenix trying to come to life. We all go through life experiencing moments where we sit back one day and ask ourselves the question … Wtf was I thinking…believing you, not studying, driving unlicensed, drinking excessively, losing a bank card , investing money, quitting a job, not quitting a job, taking the wrong advice and even thinking this is love.

Regardless of what circumstance brings us to this Wtf moment, it almost always only happens after we made a complete fool of ourselves, lost time, money, dignity, weight, logic and most of our sanity.
Thoughts suddenly appear with such clarity and the obvious absurdity of each situation appears so simple. Yet for months and sometimes years we were held in bondage by these situations whereby we could not see logical solutions that could have saved us immense grief, time and heart break. And brainstorming sessions with our closest confidantes not only over analysed the tiniest issues but transformed them into huge obstacles that further complicated an already complicated story.

I have made a very interesting observation with people in my society, over a period of time, regarding various experiences that I have been witness to.  

I noticed friends and colleagues go from one relationship to another always hoping that the right person is still out there. These people are usually the individuals in our society that are extremely intelligent, learned, well accomplished, have significantly vast life experiences at young ages, higher IQs, well groomed, good looking, witty and extreme conversationalists. Yet for the majority, they have not found the ideal candidate to share their lives with. Even if at some stage they were married or in committed relationships, they eventually realise that it was a Wtf moment and quickly try to correct this mistake by ending relations and immediately get back onto the path of new discovery.

The reason I believe these people experience these Wtf moments mainly in their personal life is because they are over analytical and critical of another person’s character and actions. They believe they are always right and usually they are almost always right. But they do not see that sometimes being “wrong” is ok too if it would make someone else happy.

They do not believe that anyone is worthy of their company because everyone else is just not like them and the standards they create for themselves is so high. Virtually unattainable. And sometimes this is their very crafty defence mechanism where they are able to pinpoint, track and annihilate any threat that appears on their radar.
And if some person is able to bypass this highly sophisticated radar protection, then it is considered an achievement and that person is a worthy “opponent” for these highly intelligent people. Please note, I say opponent because every single moment and event from here on will be over analysed, theorised, documented, remembered and recalled in the future.

If someone successfully masters this process then they are either very deceptive or an equal that is interested in a relationship. Either way, only time will decide and given a few years coupled with a few human errors we will find these individuals extremely unhappy, disappointed and asking themselves wtf was I thinking…..believing that any one is worthy of me or my equal?  

The striking difference between these people and that of people “less smarter” than themselves are that these people lack the ability to look meticulously and analytically at other’s faults and usually write it off to irrelevant. This is sometimes why these “less smarter” people neglect to see any signs that their partner was cheating, lying being deceitful, lazy. It always turns out like a “shock” to them.

The flip side for the analytics, they will find something that was never there to begin with. God forbid, you are the unassuming person that gets facts of a true story confused…The analytics will have you tried, convicted, sentenced and hung all in the same day with the least effort and your defence can only be heard by the good Lord!

So to all my friends, aquaintances, confidantes, family and readers, one thing is certain, these wtf moments are inevitable. I suggest you remain true to yourself, to your goals, to your idea of the perfect person, the ideal business, the circle of friends that make you laugh and the happiness that you have created for yourself in your own little world. Should anyone wish to be part of your world, always, always, always, I cannot stress this enough; live by your rules with a few less than life changing compromises and personality changes.
You are the right person. And if no one else sees this, it does not change the fact that you are still the right person! Find happiness in yourself and when these wtf moments pay you a visit, it will not alter the course of your very being.